Caving and Marriage

[newcastlecaver]

Can Marriage and caving go together?

I appreciate that many single people will read this and think I am referring to being so addicted to caving that it is like a marriage, however I was curious (as I am going to be married by the end of the month!) whether caving and marriage can go together  ? Discuss...!

 

[ttxela]

Quote from my wife;

"but I let you go caving last month!" 

 

[AndyF]

My married friends have a permit system, whereby they are permitted to go caving if and when they have fed the dogs, done the DIY, gone shoppping, bought a three peice suite etc.... 

I'm not married, I'm too selfish and value my freedom too much. My parnter thinks the same.

 

[racingsnake]

Can Marriage and caving go together?

I appreciate that many single people will read this and think I am referring to being so addicted to caving that it is like a marriage, however I was curious (as I am going to be married by the end of the month!) whether caving and marriage can go together   ? Discuss...!

[I implore you for the sake of the rest of your caving and other life to start as you mean to go on. Make it very very clear that to love you is to love your caving. Tell her or him  you don't need her to actually start caving , but that it is not unreasonable of you to go caving at least once a week and abroad one a year]

 

[darkplaces]

This permit system is also known as SWMBO tokens. Tokens are got by doing such things as buying flowers remembering birthdays etc, generally SWMBO tokens are in the red.

Look up SWMBO here - http://www.mine-explorer.co.uk/open-htm-white-paper.asp?id=4

Marrage will seriously curtail your caving activities - DONT DO IT! 

 

[AndyF]

I predict this thread deteriorating towards the "Mile Under Club".....again.....

 

[jasonbirder]

I'd hate to make generalisations about the fairer sex...but I can say that my marriage and caving don't mix!

My wife has what she feels has is generous aproach to caving while I view her as a sort of Nazi prison guard...I'm only supposed to go caving once a month! And even at that reduced level she gets agreived if I go away for a weekend rather than just a single day...Cheers love i'll just drive to South Wales, spend seven hours underground, not have a drink and then drive home...no problem
As i'm caving twice this month - due to a pre-booked Otter Hole trip - you can imagine the frosty atmosphere chez Jason even buying her flowers (surely an admission of defeat) didn't get me out of the doghouse!
The fact that i've started caving mid-week to make sure I get in a weekly trip she views as an affront but she hasn't managed to come up with a decent objection yet!

 

[graham]

Marry a caver, it's the only way. 

Mine has been known to organise digging trips for me. 

 

[racingsnake]

Graham

you lucky ba***rd

 

[gus horsley]

Mine's done loads with me but has a tendency to cry on traverses.

 

[graham]

Mine's done loads with me but has a tendency to cry on traverses.

Huh, that's me not her.  :-[

 

[AndyF]

I'd hate to make generalisations about the fairer sex...but I can say that my marriage and caving don't mix!

My wife has what she feels has is generous aproach to caving while I view her as a sort of Nazi prison guard...I'm only supposed to go caving once a month! And even at that reduced level she gets agreived if I go away for a weekend rather than just a single day...Cheers love i'll just drive to South Wales, spend seven hours underground, not have a drink and then drive home...no problem
As i'm caving twice this month - due to a pre-booked Otter Hole trip - you can imagine the frosty atmosphere chez Jason even buying her flowers (surely an admission of defeat) didn't get me out of the doghouse!

You poor sod! You actually get a caving "ration".

Most marrried cavers suffer this to an extent. I recommend booking a day holiday off work, go to work normal time but go caving instead, and she will never know. Don't get rescued though!

 

[tubby two]

Not to be pessimistic, but knowing you you already have to apply for permission in advance to go caving so do we really see this situation improving once you get her hitched proper?

Just to explain to others reading this- the man in question here is so under the thumb he's having to have a hag do, just so he doesnt get in trouble!

Not that i'm being at all derogatory to the missus (SWMBO, nice), we love her dearly too- why else did i ask her to marry me before you did...?!?... oh yes, she cooked those little rice krispy sticky things back in the student days of yore... mmm, little rice krispy sticky things... mmm.

tt.

 

[AndyF]

For those planning to get married, think about this.

Toss a coin. If it lands on "heads" you are going to get divorced.

If it does land on "heads", toss the coin again. If it lands upright on it's edge, you get to keep the house.

Then go and buy a meal with the coin. Get used to it, because that is all you are going to have left. 

 

[jasonbirder]

Recent argument...

Bank Statement arrives...mmmm says wifey £100 to Caving Supplies whats that all about?
Bought some Rope love - wanted a drum to do some longer pitches
How selfish with that £100 we could have bought a new Cabinet for the Bathroom...

Whats that all about - something to hid bog rolls and shampoo in is a better purchase than new rope!!!

 

[tubby two]

You should have brought a bathroom cabinet too, not only would this show your generosity and thoughtfullness- you could also hide the 100m of rope in a secret door in the back of it!

tt.

 

[SamT]

I recommend booking a day holiday off work, go to work normal time but go caving instead, and she will never know.

Genius 

 

[AndyF]

Recent argument...

Bank Statement arrives...mmmm says wifey £100 to Caving Supplies whats that all about?
Bought some Rope love - wanted a drum to do some longer pitches
How selfish with that £100 we could have bought a new Cabinet for the Bathroom...

Whats that all about - something to hid bog rolls and shampoo in is a better purchase than new rope!!!

Now the unmarried version:

Bank Statement arrives...mmmm says girlfriend £100 to Caving Supplies whats that all about?

Who the hell said you could read my bank statements? Now, go and get me some dinner before before I nip out to the pub with my mates!

But we could have put that towards a holiday....

Blimey, I took you camping in the New Forest for the weekend, I need cash for my China Expedition.....

 

[Slug]

Marry a caver, it's the only way. 

Mine has been known to organise digging trips for me. 

  Or train your other half to be a caver.
  Though thats what My brother tried to do. He was quite a serious caver, and introduced HER to it, took the devious bat underground a good few times, She even said She liked it. At the wedding a good number of Our fellow club members turned up, and a good time was had by all,,,,,,,,,,,,, BUT as soon as that ring was on His finger.........................................................And thats why I've stayed single.....................Well that and Motorbikes

 

[Deeply Mendippy]

Marrying a caver is the way forward.

:hug:

Caving with your spouse however is a different matter; in my experience the usual caving trip will probably include all sorts of route-finding, leaving a bit of kit behind, being unable to remember where you left the car keys type moments - all of which are perfectly suited to triggering a domestic.